How much further are we really since the 1960’s bra burning movement…we still make relationship abuse a quiet affair. My observation is that women are still closed about discussing abuse one-on-one with each other! We start movements to trigger conversations about abuse…but often we single out particular type of abuse, like child abuse, sexual abuse, and so on…I am waiting for the day when we discuss and do something about all abuse simultaneously and not only in the eyes of the law but in the eyes and hearts of all people; men and women. We seem to be a bit off when we do bring out the abuse, like for example, “metoo” movement focused on sexual abuse…I suggest we should be rising together against “abuse.” By rising together I don’t mean rising against men, I mean rising against abusers, one at a time by uplifting women until they are strong enough to “tell” and identify the “abusers” instead of endure, therefore, shelter them. The best way we can do that is to educate women who are in the shadows of their abusers; enlighten them and support them one at a time so that they feel empowered to call upon their courage until they feel powerful enough to create their own journey. Lets be their cheerleaders.
Abuse is abuse, regardless if it is verbal, sexual, physical, manipulation, deprivation, starvation, degradation, betrayal, alcoholisum…you see, so much can go on inside an abused woman’s world.
Knowledge and support is power; power can cure one woman at a time, but unless we educate the men, create expectations and hold them to those expectations nothing will change; for every one woman that frees herself another woman will enter the abused woman’s world.
There are many wonderful responsible men, lets not throw the baby out with the bath water.
Single mom, make the father of your children responsible and society members help the moms to accomplish this enforcement; the children are watching, abuse like responsibility is taught by the parents.
Today’s boy and girl is tomorrow’s man and woman.
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